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All situations are different when looking at the divorce but there are normally many mistakes that keep popping up. Couples unintentionally or intentionally make different mistakes that will drastically affect the entire divorce process. Based on the large experience of Quinn Law Firm, the following mistakes are really common with divorces and they need to be avoided at all costs.
Not Producing Completely Accurate Financial Information
We may not really like this but finances will be vital in divorces and separations. If you want things to go great, both parties need to produce honest, accurate information. This includes marital assets, debt and even realistic budgets about projected future expenses and marital lifestyle expenses.
Getting Overwhelmed By Emotions
If you let your emotions take over when you are involved in a divorce there is a pretty good possibility that different problems are going to appear. Every single divorce is going to be a roller coaster from an emotional point of view. Feelings will appear, ranging from grief and sadness to anger. Keeping emotions in control will help speed up everything and get a better result. Coaches and counselors can help. Also, letting only the attorney talk during all meetings can help.
Not Thinking About Children
Divorce will be complicated and when children are involved there are various extra circumstances that have to be taken into account. Divorcing couples so often lose complete sight of the larger picture. Children often end up suffering when this could have easily been avoided. It is really important in most cases that the best interests and needs of the children are considered as being the main priority. This simply makes the entire process much better on the long run.
Remaining Stuck In The Past
It is basically impossible to move on if you do not let go of what happened in the past. During divorces it is so often noticed that there is one reluctant spouse present. If one of the spouses involved in the divorce still think about what happened in the past and the grief that appeared, everything is much harder to navigate. You want to be sure that you think about the present or the future.
The discussions that will happen during divorce will always have some sort of tax implications. It is easy to forget about these. The IRS will have something to say when looking at money transfers, property transfers and investment transfers. You want to work with professionals when taxes are difficult to go through. In many divorces the taxes are not taken into account and the result is bad for at least one of the parties involved.
Not Making A Compromise
Many couples will end up stuck in a mentality that does not agree to any possible compromise during a divorce. You want to be sure that you do not make such a mistake. That is because so much extra added frustration and conflict will appear. Reaching agreements means that both parties have to be comfortable. That automatically implies that some sort of compromise will be necessary.